LMAO YOU COMPLIMENTED ME FOR BEING FAST and then look at me now... I'm sorry for the delay here!! This is a different kind of question to answer, so I was waiting to answer it and then it sunk to the bottom of my inbox never to be seen again... Until now.
Because to answer your question, yes, absolutely! It's a feeling that probably won't ever go away either, but I am the number one advocate that this isn't a bad thing, and it's not something you should worry about too much if you can. Easier said than done, I know, but here's why and how I personally combat my shyness—
The most important thing to help kick shyness in the face for me is to kind of just realize that feeling shy in this way is 1) perfectly fine, 2) perfectly normal, and 3) the other person is probably also feeling a little shy too! Like for example, think about how excited you are when someone tags you. It's the idea of woah!! woah, someone wants to RP with me, and I'm really excited about it. And I can guarantee that in most cases, that's how the other person is going to feel when you tag them. We're all nerds here, and we're all a little shy too, since it's definitely a little intimidating to blindly tag people you don't know. It's easy to fall into the loop of beating yourself up over tags, characterization, all kinds of things, but really, I think one of the most valuable things I realized with regards to RP (and life in general, honestly...) is just how true the saying "you're your own harshest critic" is.
It's easy to feel self-concious, and it's not a bad thing either! After all, this means that you're being thoughtful about your RP, and you want people to enjoy playing with you as much as you play with them. Or at least, that's how I feel when I get really self-concious. But the biggest and best way to overcome this hurdle is basically to just go for it. Nine times out of ten, it'll go great, and you'll get new threads and even new CR you may have never expected or known that you wanted as badly as you do. And that one time that it doesn't quite mesh? That's fine too! The absolute worst that's going to come from it is that you and the person you tag just don't mesh for whatever reason, which is totally normal too. In my experience, people are generally super understanding of this, because that also happens to everyone. And after all, nine out of ten isn't bad odds at all.
I can't find the actual comic that comes to mind, but I think this post gets to the point of what I mean. It's easy to be harsh on ourselves because we tend to view things from a different lens. I find that the best way to get over self-consciousness is to be aware of that lens because it helps me get over my shyness.
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Because to answer your question, yes, absolutely! It's a feeling that probably won't ever go away either, but I am the number one advocate that this isn't a bad thing, and it's not something you should worry about too much if you can. Easier said than done, I know, but here's why and how I personally combat my shyness—
The most important thing to help kick shyness in the face for me is to kind of just realize that feeling shy in this way is 1) perfectly fine, 2) perfectly normal, and 3) the other person is probably also feeling a little shy too! Like for example, think about how excited you are when someone tags you. It's the idea of woah!! woah, someone wants to RP with me, and I'm really excited about it. And I can guarantee that in most cases, that's how the other person is going to feel when you tag them. We're all nerds here, and we're all a little shy too, since it's definitely a little intimidating to blindly tag people you don't know. It's easy to fall into the loop of beating yourself up over tags, characterization, all kinds of things, but really, I think one of the most valuable things I realized with regards to RP (and life in general, honestly...) is just how true the saying "you're your own harshest critic" is.
It's easy to feel self-concious, and it's not a bad thing either! After all, this means that you're being thoughtful about your RP, and you want people to enjoy playing with you as much as you play with them. Or at least, that's how I feel when I get really self-concious. But the biggest and best way to overcome this hurdle is basically to just go for it. Nine times out of ten, it'll go great, and you'll get new threads and even new CR you may have never expected or known that you wanted as badly as you do. And that one time that it doesn't quite mesh? That's fine too! The absolute worst that's going to come from it is that you and the person you tag just don't mesh for whatever reason, which is totally normal too. In my experience, people are generally super understanding of this, because that also happens to everyone. And after all, nine out of ten isn't bad odds at all.
I can't find the actual comic that comes to mind, but I think this post gets to the point of what I mean. It's easy to be harsh on ourselves because we tend to view things from a different lens. I find that the best way to get over self-consciousness is to be aware of that lens because it helps me get over my shyness.